When we think about the way men logically communicate with solutions in mind, and the way that women communicate many times in an opposite way, with emotions tied to their ideas, it is no wonder that problems arise in this situation! Then when you factor in fibro fog in the equation, it can just become laughable or the opposite.
In thinking about couple's communication, I remembered a hilarious story of a young couple dating early in their relationship, and a perfect example of left brain vs. right brain thinking!!!!
There is no author. I will share it with you. I have changed some of it and shortened it.
There is a guy named Roger. He likes Elaine. He asks her to a movie. They have a good time. He calls and asks her out again. They have a lot of fun, and start dating regularly, and exclusively.
And then one evening, when driving home, Elaine says, "We have been dating 6 months!"
Roger does not say anything. To Elaine, it seems like a long silence. Maybe he is not happy. Maybe he feels confined. She should have not said anything.
And Roger is thinking, Gosh, Six months..........
And Elaine is thinking , maybe I'm not so sure of this relationship. I don't really know him that well. You shouldn't put your eggs all in one basket.
And Roger is thinking, so that means it was.......let's see......February when we started dating.. That was when I got the car. Oh, I need to check the odometer! Whoa! I am overdue for an oil change!!!!!!!!
And Elaine is thinking, he's upset. I see it on his face. Gosh, I knew that it was not a good idea to put any pressure on the relationship.
And Roger is thinking, I'm going to have them look at that transmission again. It's still not right. They are overcharging!!!!!!!!!! I can't believe that I have not said anything to them!!!!!!
Elaine, Gosh, he's angry! I don't blame him. I feel guilty. for putting him through this.
Roger, I bet they'll say it's only a 90-day warranty.
And Elaine is thinking,: Maybe I'm being too selfish. He's a nice boy. I'm acting too childish, with my schoolgirl romantic fantasy.
"Roger?" Elaine says aloud.
"What?" says Roger, startled from his thoughts.
Elaine says, please don't worry about what I said, just forget it. I didn't mean to upset you., tearfully.
What? says Roger, OH MY GOSH! SHE IS CRYING!!!!!!!!! HELP ME!!!!!
You think I'm crazy, don't you? asked Elaine.
No! says, Roger They arrive back at her home, and he walks her up to the door. Elaine turns to face him, and looks in his eyes. He becomes so nervous.
Thank you, Roger.
Thank you, and he's in his car!
She goes home, lies on her bed, a conflicted, tortured soul, crying, kicking herself for mentioning about the 6 months! Me and my big mouth!
On the other hand, Roger gets home, opens a bag of doritoes, turns on the TV, and immediately becomes deeply involved in a rerun of a tennis match between two Czechoslovakians he never heard of.. He thought back about the conversation with Elaine, but he knew there was no way that he had any clue what she was talking about.
The next day Elaine will call her two closest friends and discuss the situation for six hours. They will painstaking analyze everything, words, expressions, nuances.. They will continue to discuss the subject off and on for maybe months, never really reaching any conclusions!
That's me, the "Scarecrow!"
That was me exactly in high school!!!!!!!! Thank goodness we don't have to go back and relive that!!!!! ha ha ha ha ha ha
You may have seen that story before, but it's still cute to read!!!!
And I think so on target!!!!!
From Me to U!
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