It is so important to educate spouses or significant others about what their loved ones are experiencing on a daily basis. It is so essential to have a better grasp of what it is like to live with a person with unrelenting chronic pain.
An author who is also a chiropractor talks about caregivers who fall into one of three categories:
There is the very supportive spouse that is usually at the first doctor visit.
There is the spouse/partner that may have been very involved, but is now fatigued. They may have become disillusioned and or worried about money.
The is the third kind that is hostile, frustrated and unsupportive. They may describe their spouse as lazy, attention seeking or a hypochondriac. They refuse to accompany their partner to the doctor's office. They may be totally non supportive of the $ needed to be spent on the conditions. If the patient can no longer earn a living, this may add all types of resentment and bitterness.
Frequently, the partner's inability or willingness toward intimacy may also do little to help the already strained relationship.
There is no doubt that chronic illness
Can result in all sorts of stress and tension for both the suffered and the partner! She talks about if there are already cracks or weaknesses, they may result in chasms or canyons.
I remember feeling so sorry and guilty for my husband when I got sick. Just about everything changed!
The guilt can be incredibly overwhelming. I had been the healthiest person. But my husband has been so supportive since the onset!
But no one asks for this torture! There is nothing worse than feeling like you are a burden. Not to say that thru the ups and downs, some days are better than others! It can be an extreme roller coaster of pain, feelings, emotions from A to Z and attempts to cope on both sides!
For many patients, there is a loved one that is suffering right along with them.
From Me to U!!!
Blessings from the mountains of Colorado!
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